Month: June 2018

Forgiveness of Self

“Forgiveness is like the ocean.  Over time, it purifies itself by releasing debris, washing ashore what it no longer needs or wants.”

Words of Life:  Messages for a Path to Inner Peace

Let’s talk about forgiveness.  Often times we think of the word “forgiveness” and we use it as a way to describe what we do for others.  Today let’s talk about what you can do for yourself.  Sometimes the harshest critic is the one that lives within us.  We judge our reactions, we judge our looks, and even judge the way we move through the world. I am asking you to think about how judgement of self affects your mind, body, and those around you. This is what spirit has to say about kindness to self:

If you treated yourself with compassion for all the things that you say you did wrong, you would live a more peaceful life. After all, you are just expressing yourself in a way that you have learned. If you had learned that sometimes things do not go your way or emotions can be very strong, you would have learned that these are all reactions that can happen when you have the highs and lows of emotion. This is a normal part of being alive.

 When we treat our emotions as normal, we are saying that we are entitled to feel how we feel. Treat yourself with compassion. Treat yourself respect. Understand that the highs and lows of emotion are normal. This does not mean that you are entitled to belittle another, react violently, or insult the world. It just means that you can forgive yourself for feeling in a way that made you feel uncomfortable. This can be in the form of sadness, anger, resentment, or any of the so-called negative emotions that you may exhibit. Have them, honor them, see what is behind them, and then treat yourself with compassion. This is how it will dissipate from the body. This is how you will move on and begin the process of understanding yourself. Maybe then you can convert a negative emotion into a positive outlook. Getting stuck on what you should or shouldn’t feel is not in your best interest. It is not in the best interest of the world.

 See your life as a way to learn, to be whole, and to be happy, even with all the emotions that come from being alive.

I definitely have had moments of regret about my reaction to a situation, a person, or sometimes it’s my regret about not reacting at all.  We are all here doing the best we can, so breath in a big sigh and be kind to yourself.  Forgive yourself—this life is about learning. Let go of the feelings that keep you in regret.

As always, please share with your friends, family, or anyone else you think might enjoy reading this. Help me to spread light to the world!

Always Be You, Trisha

Posted by T. L. Montgomery